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Will I Be Happier If I Quit Complaining?

Will I Be Happier If I Quit Complaining

I wonder if I could be happier. I’m pretty happy, but maybe there’s room for improvement. This morning, I got a gentle nudge in that direction when I opened my The Secret app, and it told me to stop complaining.

(Yes, I am the type of person who spent $4.99 on a The Secret app and consults it every morning.)

It’s true I do complain about certain things. The Secret app suggests that my continual complaining signals to the universe that it should bring me more of the things I complain about. In other words, what I think about, I bring about. I’ve read that in other places. I know from experience it’s true.

So, I decided to cut down on my complaining and left the house to meet my friend for lunch.

I get another nudge to be happier

Out of nowhere, my friend mentioned an acquaintance who set a goal but doesn’t make progress because she is always complaining about her past. “Nothing’s ever going to change for her. She keeps getting what she got,” my friend said.

I took this conversation as another sign that it’s time for me to stop complaining.

The thing is, I don’t know if I can do it. Sometimes I like to complain. It’s a warped kind of fun. But, since I’d like to bring about even better things, it would be wise to be more conscious of the words that come out of my mouth.

Could it be dangerous to stop complaining?

My friend and I discussed this: maybe my efforts to be happier will cause me to bottle up dangerous emotions and give myself a heart attack. But I’m an EFT practitioner, so the obvious solution is not to bottle up my feelings but to tap on them when things start getting to me. It’s just a matter of replacing a bad habit with a good one.

That said, I rarely do anything without doing a little research first, so I Googled around for information about other people who’ve tried to stop whining. I stumbled upon the website of Will Bowen, who calls himself the World Authority on Complaining. He even wrote a book on the subject.

Apparently, I’m the only person in the world who never heard of this guy because his website has photos of everybody from Maya Angelou to Dr. Oz smiling it up with him.

His site also features a positivity test, which I took. I scored a 93, which means I was right. There is definitely room for improvement. Okay, then. I’m going to stop complaining starting right now. Really. You have my word. Wish me luck.

I’ll let you know how it goes.

Are you a complainer? Have you ever tried to stop? What happened? Please let me know in the comments. And, if you liked this post, please share it!